Dear 2010 Melanie T

Dear 2010 Melanie,

You’ve seen the mountain top and you’ve been in the valley. You never knew one year a phone call would turn your life upside down. You never realized one person could be so important that you put your life on hold for x amount of time.

You probably won’t believe me when I tell you . . . your boyfriend of 2 years will break up with you a week after your 2 year anniversary. It’s ok. I couldn’t believe it either. Do believe me when I say you are stronger than you thought. Your family especially your mom will be understanding and patient. People you didn’t give much thought to will spring back into your life as if they’ve never wandered. The freshest months after the break-up will be the hardest. Sometimes you’ll start crying… and you think you don’t know why but don’t hide it. It’s ok. Let it out. You’ll feel so much better afterward.

Your friend from Hawaii will fly out just for the weekend. Just for you. Just to make sure you have someone to cry with, to talk to, to hug. Do believe me when I say the next few months you’ll experience grace like never before. There are no words to describe it-that’s how you are able to get through: one day at a time. Grace sufficient for each day. It never runs out.

Cheer up, being single isn’t all that bad. Actually, you’ll get to really enjoy singleness because of it you were able to watch Wicked in SF, Cruise to Mexico, and spend July 4th weekend in Chicago. You even started a blog and made great blogging friends!

Your eczema? You’ll finally be able to know what’s wrong with you. It’s not because you’re a monster and deformed although that’s what I was starting to believe, as well. Your allergist visit will be quite an experience. One you will definitely enjoy telling, sharing, and re-telling.

On a side note, if I were you, which I kind of am, I’d start buying clothes little by little starting now. You will have to start borrowing clothes from your size zero sister because of the weight you’re losing-from the breakup, because of your fasting, and finally your food allergies.

Don’t give up on the job search. It’ll take four months, 30 interviews, and 15 thank you notes. You even got to interview at USC-your resume and application got chosen out of 200 applicants. You interviewed twice at the California Science Center and got free parking to see the exhibits. Forever 21 Corporate hounded you for a clerk job and the President authorized a salary increase especially for you. The aforementioned companies will not offer you a job or you will not accept. God has something better for you. East Whittier School District. Title: Food Accounting Specialist. You no longer have to take the freeway. Praise the Lord. You will feel such relief.
The resignation of your former job and the acceptance of your new one will pave the way of NEW for you. New job. New year. New number. New things to cross off the bucket list.

Oh and the Laker finals game you wanted to watch but no one would go with you? GO BY YOURSELF you’ll regret it if you don’t. I regret not going.

All in all, this was a good year for you, this was a bad year for you, this was definitely a growing year for you. Embrace it. Run with it. Love it. Cry with it. Whatever you do-do NOT fight it.

2011 January


12 thoughts on “Dear 2010 Melanie T

  1. Melanie! I love your blog too and even though my ADD sometimes prevents me from sticking around long enough to comment, I do read (and love) a majority of your posts.
    A few things: Forever 21 is horrible. Be thankful you didn’t take the job. Also, I want to move out to San Francisco after college even though I’ve never been there before. If you’re around that area (and this isn’t meant to be creepy) and I do make it out there, I’d love to meet up for a coffee. Lastly, I love the picture of you! You look happy!
    Kudos on the positive attitude coming into 2011. 2010 was a crazy year but it’s over and better things are on the horizon!

  2. I love this! Very honest and well written. I pray for your success in all Things. Again, thanks for reading my blog. =)

  3. Dear 2011 Melanie,

    You’ve been with 2010 Judy for quite a very short time so be with 2011 Judy this time every week. She’ll be posting and hope you will be there to support her. She promises to be here with you, too. Happy New You!!!


    2011 Judy

  4. That couldn’t have been written any better, if I say so myself. Excellent reading and so very darn true!!!!! Life truly is all about taking risks because in the end, if you succeed then you will be happy and if you lose, you will be wiser. Too many people go through life waiting for things to happen instead of making them happen!
    Obstacles Melanie, are put in your way to test you… to see if what you really want, is worth fighting for. The only limitations you will ever have are the ones you put on yourself.

    • Wait for the guy who’ll be your best friend, the person who’ll drop everything to be with you at any time
      of the day no matter what. He’ll be the guy who makes you smile like no other guy can and when he looks at you… you know he needs you. Be patient and wait for the guy who thinks you’re beautiful even when your hair’s a mess and you have no make-up on. 🙂 Right now, someone you haven’t met is out there wondering what it would be like to meet someone like you.

  5. Beautifully written post, Madame, it simply was not possible to not become emotionally involved in your story. It sounds as though you have some wonderful friends and family supporting you, and an extremely promising future 🙂 Happy New year!

  6. Dear 2011 Melanie,

    People who only know you from online in 2010, will in a very short period of time, grow to call you friend and feel respect and love for you. In no way would anyone consider you a monster because of the forces in your life you cannot control. Only by your actions could you be considered a monster and from the things you convey in your writings — you are far from a monster.

    People who know will tell you that the more you can enjoy and be content in your singleness, the more you will enjoy it when you find someone. People (me), who have been reading about God can tell you for sure that He has your best interest at heart and He has ordered your steps long before the foundations of the Earth. Dear 2011 Melanie, stay positive, put others before yourself and you will get all the desires of your heart and mind.

    Tom & April

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