Day 15 Of Honesty

 

Day 15 — Given the choice between infinite time or infinite money, I would choose…

Infinite money of course! I would not only be able to spend money on myself but on other people as well. I could give any amount to whatever cause or charity. I think its a better choice than infinite time. There are too many variables to think about. With money it’s infinite and that’s all I need to know. I can spend money on other people so they can join in the fun with me! Right now, I’m at the place where I’ve got a good amount saved up to spend it on different things I want to do what I’m lacking is the companionship. Now all I would need to do is find a part-time job accommodating to my traveling bug 🙂

Although now that I think about it…maybe I should set up a company that my selected friends and family can take turns working at so they could accompany me too!

A Beautiful Day Calls for a Photo Shoot

All Photos Taken By Darlene Torres

Rodeo Drive, Beverly Hills

Improvised Art

Expensive Toys

Los Angeles, CA from Griffith Observatory

Walking around Rodeo Drive

All photos taken by Darlene Torres

Boy, do me a favor, PLEASE! Pt 2

This is one of those posts that will continue… Click here to read the first post 

Do not text me if you’re planning to ask me out. Call me. Ask me in person. If you text me I’ll take it as a casual “Let’s hang out, friend” 

 

Yes, I expect you to pay. You asked me out. I’m taking time out of my schedule to “entertain’ you. You pay. If you would rather go dutch, let me call my girls to join me.

 

I see you ogling the girl. I’m not blind or stupid. I know when it’s a glance and a stare. 1+ looks are considered staring/ogling.

 

I hate hearing the word trust. Sadly but honestly, you are guilty until you are proven innocent. That’s how it goes with me.

 

Be a player and I will never talk to you again. I have high standards for friends and I have even higher standards for potential boyfriends. If you’re a player, you’re not my friend and will never be my boyfriend.

 

Don’t waste my time. If you don’t know what you are doing with your life and you aren’t even making steps to find out what you want to do, stop talking to me.

 

Call me. If you don’t want to be considered a bother then text me and ask if you can call tonight.. If you never text or sometimes text and you never call me, you and I are just friends.

 

Consider this a warning or a challenge: You have competition that already have priority in my life. My dad, my brother, my cousins, and my guy friends. They have set the bar and I love them dearly. You are required to stand out from the rest of them or you’re just another friend.

Boy, do me a favor, PLEASE!

I’ve had my share of dates the past month. One of the things that really irk me is that guys don’t really study up on a girl when they are given a chance. You can see my in my element, my environment. Me talking with my friends, me talking with adults, me sitting by myself, me playing with the kids. You can kinda get a feel of who i am. Do a little psycho-analysis. Please.

 

This is for all the guys that don’t want to do the homework…

Oh, me helping you means you’ve just slid into the friend category. Sorry 😦

 

Please talk intelligently. I’m not asking you to use big words; I’m asking you to use complete sentences. We were taught what complete sentences consist of in grade school. We have practiced complete sentences all our lives, do not start now to talk in incomplete sentences. I do not care if it’s a simple, complex, compound, complex-compound sentence; just make sure it is a sentence.

Do not make fun of other people in front of me. I have a sense of humor but my sense of humor does not consist of making fun of another or stepping on another person to put self above another. Some people are very witty. If you don’t know what witty means or what it consists of: you’re not witty and that means I don’t think you’re funny.

Do not buy me with your money. I always try to believe it’s the thought that counts. Anyone can flash around money and throw it down for everyone else. I notice when you’ve put thought into a gift or a date. Anyone can pick a place and pay for it but it really takes time and effort to make a date memorable but enjoyable.

Don’t refer to me as “man/dude”. Better yet don’t use the words “man/dude/bro”, etc in your conversation. I hardly use those words when I converse with you please do the same.

I just want to help, let me. I don’t know what it is with guys and not letting me plug-in the address to a gps so we can quickly start driving to our destination. I just want to help, I’m not trying to take over. Don’t be offended when I take something out of your already full hands, I know you are capable but I just want to help. I’m not expecting you to be perfect and mr. macho man. If that’s what you want to be though, you’re trying to woo the wrong girl.

Do not mock me. If there is one thing I hate is being mocked. The next thing I hate is being mocked with a high girly pitched voice.

Get your focus of yourself, now. Stop worrying if I like you or if you’re doing it all wrong because you are. I look for friends. I want a friend before I attach boy to the beginning of the word ‘friend’. If you won’t be my friend first and allow me to talk nonstop about stupid things and let me get comfortable around you, it will not work. EVER. Then you won’t notice that I’m really quiet and answer with mono-syllabic answers. You won’t notice that I haven’t answered your text 3 hours later. When I start talking to you again it means you’ve slid further away from boyfriend material and into friend category.

Sometimes, I want you to let me be. People have bad days. I do not need you to try to make me laugh. I just want you to listen to me vent or to just talk about something else other than my situation. I don’t need you to make me laugh. If you really wanted to brighten my day we would go do something. It doesn’t have to be fancy but something little, simple, and nice.

Do not say the same joke over and over again. After you’ve said it the second time, it’s no longer funny. After you’ve said it for 3 weeks in a row, I will hit the delete contact on my phone, Facebook, email, etc. Every now and then repeat the joke but every time we hang out? Get another joke and use it once.

Lastly, but the most important, Do NOT try to impress me. You WILL fail. It irks me to no end. It rubs me the wrong way. I will start to ignore you. I will run away when I see you.

 

So, this is the basics of Melanie. I know, it’s far from basic but that’s why I’m still single. Honest, I’m not hard to please; I just want and need to know: I’m worth it-he risk of being wooed and courted even if it doesn’t work out between us. Call me old-fashioned but that’s me, Melanie.

Welcome to my Randomness XXVII

**This was written yesterday**

I wrote a guest post for Marlize last month. Read here: http://everygirlscorner.wordpress.com/2011/01/08/melanie/

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I took a 2 hour long nap yesterday when I came home from work.

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I am now sitting at Renae’s house chilling on her new sofas. 🙂

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She’s preggo and I’m SO EXCITED FOR HER!

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I went to Best Buy yesterday ready to give the dude my number. He wasn’t there.

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I’m going later today or tomorrow. I need to get a new phone. My phone is wack. I have a legit excuse. He better be there. LOL

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So my wacko phone. I was talking to a friend one night while charging my phone and it randomly shut off. Twice it did that in the span of 30 minutes.

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The next day I tried out my phone again. This time when dialing the numbers the screen blanked out and the light wouldn’t turn on and I couldn’t turn my phone off. It did that twice.

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The next day my screen blacked out and randomly opened an application I did not choose.

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Apparently, my phone is itching to get back to Best Buy. UGH FAIL.

Just hope he’s there when I go in.

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Oh and they didn’t have any of my phones in stock when I went on Friday (last night)

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I have missed you my blogging friends. Hopefully I will get into a routine of blogging again with this new job.

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Welcome to my Randomness XXI

I’ve been really fascinated by how beautiful the sky has been lately. . .

 

Pretty Colors...

 

 

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I had an interview with the Science Center yesterday. I haven’t been there in FOREVER. So many things have been changed but it’s still so neat to go through it.

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I have this intense desire to just up and leave for the weekend. Buy a flight for Friday and fly back Monday.

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The problem is picking where to go. So many choices!

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Volleyball tomorrow. I haven’t been feeling it the past few games. I haven’t played horribly. I’ve been pretty decent. I’ve been completely off and it’s really frustrating.

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Hopefully I can snap out of it soon.

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Looking for a volleyball league to join after this one ends. Any suggestions?

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If all else fails, I’ll just sign up for a volleyball class at Mt Sac.

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I’ll be able to play at least once a week.

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Upcoming Jury Duty on November 15th. I’ll serve the jury term. I just hope it’s a case I can handle. None of that nasty gory stuff.

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Add the graphics to the details, I may throw up.

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Ever feel like you’re waiting for someone to ask you how you are doing? Really, ask you how you are doing. To the point where they’re keeping eye contact waiting for your answer…?

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Yeah, so anyway. My friend Beth is leaving for Michigan tomorrow. The silly girl told me last weekend as we were hanging out. She said it so nonchalant…

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Going back to school enrolling to get an AA in Paralegal stuff. That sentence looks weird.

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This past week has been horrible sleep week. I don’t know why. Last night I came home “late” 10pm. I was helping my mom get their flight stuff ready. Slept after 1am.

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The other night my twin called! Woohoo! He’s coming for a weekend in December. I’m excited! I didn’t think I’d see him til his wedding. If I was going, lol. Oh anyway, since the last time we talked a couple of months ago we ended up talking til 3 am.

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The weather has been insane lately, just to let you know. This past week its been around 87-97 degrees. Wednesday it was unbearable with the 97 degree weather! Its NOVEMBER!!!

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My friend Ben who lives in MO at the moment thinks that’s incredible. He said swimming attire should be appropriate for the workplace if it’s that hott in November. The logic in that? I don’t see it.

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He and I talked about something particular that needs a post all its on.

Until next Friday’s randomness!

That’s not when I’ll post about it some time after I post my sushi dinner and this post! Wow, I’m totally random right now.

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ok bye!

Welcome to my Randomness XX

I had two stories to tell now none come to mind. Wow…talk about getting old.

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I remember!

Anyway, I was reception relief yesterday since my subordinate didn’t come to work. I haven’t been up to the reception desk in about a month or so?

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A client calls. Need to speak with Jack, please (Names changed, of course)

Me: I’m sorry Jack is out of the office for an event. Would you like to leave a message or be transferred to his voicemail?

Client: That’s what you told me last week. Did you ever give him the message?

Me: I’m sorry, this is the first time I’ve been at the reception desk since last month. I work in the accounting department and we’re short-staffed at the moment.

Client: Oh. Well, when will he be back?

Me: I’m not sure I know he had training last week and there’s an event this week. If you leave a message I’ll e-mail him your information. Jack returns phone calls accordingly.

Client: Ok, I need a loan and I was referred by Wells Fargo…

Etc. So goes the conversation.

Sometimes you can tell someone is prolonging the conversation. I was getting that type of feeling with this guy. Hey, what can I do? A client is a client right? Go with the flow, keep him engaged, interested, and portray that I really care about his needs and how our services can meet those needs… yada yada.

Yup, I was right. He just wanted to prolong the conversation. Unfortunately, he asked for my name and yes I gave it.

His conclusion/goodbye. Ok, sweetie thank you so much.

GAG.

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He was probably in his mid-thirties. Not that anything is wrong with that age. It’s definitely not the age for me. 🙂

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We were supposed to have an Alumni Volleyball game tonight. We aren’t having one. It got canceled. I’m totally disappointed.

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I was so looking forward to this game!

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At least tomorrow I still have my Saturday league. I’m going to need to find something after this Saturday league is over though.

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November 1st starts the end of my life. Not that I’ve had a life right now anyway. For sure, I’m going to start studying again. This time I’m determined. Studying 3/5 week nights I’m available. Saturday afternoon studying. Sunday afternoon reviews.

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Let’s hope I stick with it. I have 2 months planned out. I also have a weekly to-do list. I also have a daily to do list: M, T, W, S/S each day has several goals.

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Since I love lists and crossing things off my list…this should help me stay motivated and determined. I’ve also accounted for Holidays.

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The second story I really wanted to share has completely eluded my mind.

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OH MY GOODNESS! I remember now! I think I remember at least. Vegetable oil. Everyone uses vegetable oil, right? Well, we also have olive oil, virgin olive oil, etc.Sometime this week in the evening I was really itchy. I couldn’t figure out why. I took Benadryl and it somewhat subsided. The next evening I was looking at the ingredients for pan de sal. Filipino bread. AMAZING taste. Anyway! It said vegetable oil. I randomly thought to look at the ingredients for vegetable oil just because I was in a weird mood. I don’t know what I was expecting but definitely not what I found out!

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There was only one ingredient for vegetable oil: SOYBEAN OIL

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I immediately stopped eating. That further complicates things considering almost EVERYTHING is cooked in vegetable oil. I think fewer people would actually use vegetable oil if they called it what it really was: soybean oil-sounds weird.

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This morning I came into work later than usual. I was actually able to talk to my dad. I don’t ever see my dad because I’m usually out of the house by the time he wakes up. He was awake a little earlier because he’s attending this online trading seminar. I opted to go into work late just to chat with him even if it was for 15 minutes. I love my dad. He’s always smiling. Honestly sometimes its hard to tell if he’s serious or not because he has those smile wrinkles.

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The only downside to this Saturday evening volleyball league…I’m unable to go out-of-town. My family is visiting my grandpa (he lives 3 hours away). I haven’t seen him since…oh dear. I don’t know when. Probably the summer time. Because in August my skin wreaked havoc and in September my volleyball league started. I miss him. My dad is just like him… lol.

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Any randomness you care to share?

Welcome to my Randomness XIX

This whole week has been a gloomy-sky kind of week.

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But today the sun actually played peek-a-boo…

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Oh and I don’t like gloomy skies. I would rather have it bright and sunny or completely dark. None of this gray and in-between stuff; be one or the other please.

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Still no word from any interviews about second interviews or job offers; this is getting really discouraging.

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A blessing in disguise about my job though it has allowed me to pay off two student loans. I think when I get my retroactive pay from the last 2 pay periods I’ll cut the remaining loan in half.

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I’m glad I still live with my parents. I’m not planning on moving out anytime soon since I love traveling and plan to travel quite frequently.

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I must confess my posts have been nothing substantial and I must apologize…I’m finding myself withdrawing from everything and everyone. I apologize, please forgive me. I’ll do better, promise!

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Funny conversation a few nights ago….My friend, Donnie, (name changed, of course) texted me. Basically saying he was done with girls for right now and “these things get more complicated as ppl get older….”

Me: Oh yeah. My thoughts are focused on self right now and that’s not a good thing. Because I’m getting used to it and thinking about someone intruding—bad thought

Donnie:  Well you can focus on me! I’m having the issues right now haha

Me: Lol and who will you be focusing on?! Haha. I’m so against being intruded upon. I think the only relationship I’d want is long distance.

Donnie: Haha….well I’ll be long distance…wink wink. BAHAHAHAHAHAHA

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Danny and I were supposed to attend Longoria’s event at Grauman’s Chinese Theatre last night for her Documentary Premiere. Unfortunately, we got stuck in traffic and weren’t able to go. To console ourselves we went to Roscoe’s Chicken and Waffles.

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Yes! I know I went there last Saturday but this fried chicken is sooo gooood!

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I am picky about fried chicken… and fried chicken with waffles and syrup.. AMAZING!

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Don’t you dare comment and say ew..gross, either. We cannot be friends if you do not even try this stuff!

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The other day I went to Albertson’s to stock up on some snacks. (I keep the snacks in my car or leave them at work because my brother will eat them in a day) Anyway…as I was walking out of Albertson’s I hear someone’s car alarm go off. I reach my car and it is still going off… I’m now looking for this car…

 

Oh...that's why ....

 

 

End of story.

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Enjoy your weekend and hope you enjoyed another segment of welcome to my randomness!

Welcome to my Randomness XVIII

Friday all I did was drive.

At least that’s what it felt like: drive to work, drive to Long Beach Community College, drive to Target, then drive home-only to find out my brother is expecting someone to take him to his game.

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I take a 40 minute nap. Drive my brother to his game in Chino, drive back home, quickly get ready for a family gathering, drive to Pomona for family gathering, then drive home. FINALLY.

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Later on today, Saturday: Drive my sister to a bridal shower (West Covina), run company errands-yes, on a saturday, pick up my friend Courtney from ULV (University of La Verne, pick up my sister from West Covina, drive to Americana at Brand, drive to Griffith Observatory for the sunset, drive to Roscoe’s Chicken and Waffles for dinner off Sunset Blvd, then drive home. I’ll probably have to drop Courtney off at ULV too.

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If Friday’s drivers are going to be the same kind of drivers on Saturday I may have my sister drive.

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I emailed him and invited him to a Saturday game. I told him if he wanted to come to text me if he didn’t want to come. A text is unnecessary. Is that rude?

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This weather is killing me. It’s cold then hot. Friday was drizzling/spitting and in the afternoon it was warm and sunny THEN in the evening was cold and breezy.

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California weather please make up your mind. My allergies go berserk and so does my health!

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Honestly, if I wanted sporadic and spastic weather I would move to Greenville, South Carolina. There is sporadic and spastic. In one week I could experience all four seasons!

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I’ve got an Interview on Monday at 1:30. I haven’t heard anything from USC yet. I’m planning on calling them Monday to see how the interview process is going for all the applicants and if I’m still in the running.  

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I’ll be updating my Resume and adding a whole lot more responsibilities and duties to my current job description.

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Thursday I was not feeling well at all. Wednesday night was a horrible allergy night. I think it’s from the egg rolls I ate, they had carrots in them. It’s really hard to remember I’m allergic to veggies-celery, carrots, and potatoes.

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I digress, so Thursday I call in sick. I’m exhausted. My allergies/sinus are kicking in. Menopausal weather does not help. I’m expected to come into the 3 pm meeting. The meeting lasted 30minutes. Honestly, they should’ve called my home phone for this meeting.

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This is getting ridiculous. I’m really in need of a sabbatical.

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What I really want to do though is get alone. No distractions and no people. Just sit, contemplate, pray, read, relax, and fast. Maybe I only need 1 day, or maybe 2-3 days. I just need a couple of days to refocus and reenergize.

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It doesn’t look like that can happen anytime soon. Praying it does though. I need it.

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Until then this will be my happy thought….

It’s not the first time…

I had dinner with friends on my day off Monday.

Of course they asked my outlook on the dating scene-am I looking? interested? leery? fed up?

Honestly, I’ll gladly take the stage 1 of relationships: the flirting, the compliments, flattery, no DTR talks, (Defining The Relationship) or better yet…bring me to stage 3 where we’re madly in love and have put in the hard work, sacrifice, and time. Where we’re just enjoying each other without the ups & downs, etc. Where basically, I’m just waiting for my ring.

Hint at going to stage 2 and I will disappear. Even if YOU don’t hint at it, if I feel it….I will run away. I’ll put up the walls. I’ll be sarcastic and mean.

Contemplating relationships, it isn’t worth it right now. As much as I miss being in a relationship-I won’t lie its fun but it also is a sacrifice of everything you have. Of course, eventually I would like to get married, key word: eventually.

Couple the above with the factors of not knowing what I’m doing in life-job, career, etc. I wouldn’t want anymore complications. Nor do I need anymore!

Granted, I feel this way because Mr. Man hasn’t shown up on my doorstep yet. Then again, I’m also suffering from tunnel vision and tunnel hearing. Even if he were pass my way I probably have already missed him.

I digress so I finish my spiel and he comments… “That’s such like a guy…”

It’s definitely not the first time I’ve heard that said about me… nor will it be the last, no doubt.