Delayed Gratification…

This past weekend life threw one of its many curve balls. . . Sickness, pain, suffering, were among everyone’s feelings this past week. It has caused me to ponder a bit.

In the Filipino culture we are taught at a very young age to pursue our studies to have a better life than our parents have. No matter how “well-off” we were when growing up, it’s not good enough they expect us to live better than that.

My parents have worked hard. I don’t think I grew up deprived of anything. I suppose one could make the argument that although materiality was readily accessible or able to be bought my parents never spoiled us by buying items we wanted just because they could. My parents made sacrifices for us and I have never felt the desire to take advantage of them.

I’m concerned. When have you actually reached “better” isn’t there always something “better”?

My parents have worked hard. Earning every vacation day they took whether in actual time off or dollars. As I sit here looking at their life, I would say they have reached the “American Dream” everyone hopes for. The “American Dream” right…? Life, liberty, and the pursuit of happiness. They have definitely pursued this happiness, they found it freely in Christ. They gained a few extra things along the way: each other, 3 children, a home, a car for each driver, healthcare ( I had to throw that out there, sorry)…

Since I think they’ve reached the “American Dream” I want to know…”Have they enjoyed it?”

Everyone talks about delayed gratification. Putting off pleasure and happiness now and trading it in for sweat, hard-work, and tears. So what is the time limit of delayed? For a child, it may be graduating from High School or college. For the college student, it’s graduating from college and getting that first job. For the young adult, it’s vesting in an IRA. Do you notice how the time stamps never end? There is always one more rung on the ladder to step up to.

When is one able to enjoy his accomplishments? For the Senior, it may be the summer before starting college. For the college graduate, it may be the summer before adult responsibilities kick in (or maybe 6 months after graduation when the student loan bills start marching in). That’s when it stops though, the time. Maybe I should say that’s when time snowballs. As soon as the first bill comes in, adult life snowballs: “How do I pay this bill when I’m still looking for a job?” The questions and concerns never end.

So tell me. When does one enjoy? Does it take a medical scare to jar us from our delayed gratification goals? Does it take a family member’s death to shake us to what is really important in life? Does it take a fire to burn down all our possessions to realize we never enjoyed our “props” in the house.

So I ask you today: leave the housework for tomorrow and spend time with your children. Take a break and pick up the phone and call your parents. Sit in front of the computer and Skype with your cousin. Drive 3 hours on Saturday to visit your aunt. Write the letter, the 2 page hand-written letter you said you were going to write ages ago.

If you die in your sleep, your housework will be done by someone else but one cannot hug your child for you. One cannot write the letter you said you were going to. One cannot be ‘you’ as hard as they try.

Did you know?!

Last Saturday it hit me…

The main ingredient in salad dressing is soybean oil.

Do you know what soybean oil is?

Vegetable oil.

The vegetable oil we fry foods in.

Gross.

Oh and by the way, it’s the same for mayo.

Welcome to my Randomness XXII

Is anyone else as tired as I am? I don’t know what it is but I’m exhausted.

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I’m planning a trip around the world. Of course after I finish my CPA exam.

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Talking about a motivating factor…

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The countries I want to visit so far: China, Thailand, Greece, Poland, SPAIN, Philippines…

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So far… that’s it. Of course, I wouldn’t be touring and exploring. I’m planning on teaching English. Lord willing if I’m able to do so.

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I’ve come across some pretty cool programs and organizations. I’m praying everything works out because I’m really looking forward to this around the world trip!

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Wednesday I was called for an interview. Unfortunately at a time I’m unavailable, the morning. I can’t interview in the morning because I’m expected to be at work. So I go to interviews on my lunch breaks.

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Long story short the HR Manager called me in the afternoon wondering about me in the morning. SHOCKER! You NEVER get called back after you missed a scheduled interview (only of course if they’re sales positions) Anyway! I was shocked to say the least and she wanted me to come in ASAP that day BEFORE 5pm. Good thing I was on my lunch break at that very moment (3pm).

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I told HR lady I’m not prepared! I’m not dressed!

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HR: Are you in business casual at least? Hurry up and look online at the job description!

TALK ABOUT HEART ATTACK!

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Well, as far as my interview intuition goes… I don’t think I’ll get a call-back. This was my 2nd interview… the Hiring manager said the dreaded words… Ok, well our HR department will be in contact with you.

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LADY HR disrupted my LUNCH HOUR to schedule an impromptu interview with you! Goodness! AND I wasted a perfectly beautiful paisley cotton printed card for you. UGH!

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Anyway, you live and you learn. I’m definitely getting my interview practice in.

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Saturday volleyball: I landed on my left ankle wrong. It was bruised and swollen. BUT I healed up quite nicely and only when I accidentally sit RIGHT on my ankle does it hurt. Not bad… I suppose.

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I’m going to talk to my parents about letting up a bit on chore list… Its kind of hard to study when you are constantly being interrupted by questions of who’s washing the dishes, who’s cleaning the kitchen counters/stove, who’s going to sweep the floor and mop, etc.

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Wish me luck! My other alternative is to pay my brother. My sister already said she doesn’t have time… surprisingly that shocks me that she’s actually turning down “free” money…

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I’m still contemplating how much I want to shell out for the bro…but maybe if every now and then I buy him dinner we can come to a nice agreement.

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This would be most helpful…

What’s the one thing you would pay for to get done and how much would you pay?

Please, for my sanity. II

Ok, I thought I covered all the bases with my first Please, for my sanity.

Apparently, not.

1. If you are chilling out on the freeway and not in any hurry: GET OFF THE FREEWAY!

2. If I text you and you text me back a reply…please wait til I text you back. Don’t text me again. I got your text message, I’m busy!

3. We’ve known each other for 10 years how do you not know I’m not a picky eater and something probably happened as to why I no longer eat potatoes, salmon, soy sauce, bread, cookies, etc.

4. You know the game red light, green light? Yeah, you played it when you were little… well, you know how when the moderator said “Green light” you ran towards him like crazy? “Red light” you screeched to a stop (literally sometimes falling over) and “Yellow light” you TRIED to walk slowly in a fast manner…? YEAH! Apply this to the ROAD!!!!

5. Actually, I’ll just send you a memo when I’m going to be driving around…so you can stay off the road.

Thank you,
Melanie

“Well my mom said!”

I’ve been on the new employment radar…

Lately I’ve been losing weight.

Actually, I’ve lost weight and I’m not trying to purposely lose anymore. I’m more on the maintenance side of the weight issue.

A few days ago my mom said… “People don’t like it when you’re too skinny. They won’t hire you.”

 

For the record, I eat. I love eating but my list of untouchable foods encompasses a lot of the food my family eats daily. I’m stuck with veggies and rice.

By the way, they had salmon last night. My mom is planning to cook more salmon tonight. What will I get stuck with? Brussels Sprouts. Don’t get me wrong, I love veggies! My mom also knows if I don’t have anything to eat, I won’t eat. It’s a lose-lose situation for mom when she’s trying to get me to gain weight. They love their soy sauce 🙂

I love my mom…

I came home Monday night to a silent house. It was cold, rainy, and dreary outside. I was a hungry gal.

I open up the cupboards… hey! They’re full-ish!

Oh wait!

SOY?

Soy Protein?!

Mind you, when I didn’t know I was allergic to soy-I was the only one aside from my mom that regularly drank this stuff…

PEANUTS!

Almond Milk

Apparently, my mom forgot she has an allergic to everything person living in her house.

BUT WAIT!

Half-empty bag of….

Something I CAN eat!


I have found my substitute for POTATO chips! Not that I really liked potato chips but when you can’t have something you tend to miss it…Can I get a witness?!

Not that the above bold statement fit into what I am stating I just felt like inserting it in there.


My mom did go grocery shopping. She had high aspirations of cooking fajitas that evening for our lunches the next day. First she steamed asparagus and the Brussel sprouts because she bought a bunch of veggies and didn’t want them to go to waste…. Then she got distracted. What did she end up doing as it was getting close for her to get to sleep?

She marinated SALMON. If I recall…salmon is a BIG no-no.

I came into the kitchen and saw her with the salmon. She looked at me,  soy sauce in hand ready to pour into the pan…”Oh, you want to eat this..?” She places a salmon fillet into a separate pan….before she fully places it in there…”Uh, mom, that’s salmon…”

Mom: “Oh, oh, yeah that’s right.”

Way to go MOM!

Apparently to console me, she was cleaning up the pans she used to steam the asparagus and Brussel sprouts, “Melanie! Drink this juice because you can’t take anymore vitamins.”

“Yeah, mom that’s because it has soy in it.”

I drank it like a good daughter would. I had asparagus and Brussel sprouts for lunch the next day.

Just another random episode of my life…

Welcome to my Randomness XV

I got an email from him… and now I feel like not replying forever.

Well, maybe not forever but at least a month or month and a half.

Is that bad?

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I’ve not spent any money so far, unless you count gas but that’s doesn’t count, I think. At least, I’m saying it doesn’t.

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Going to the LA County fair today after 5pm because it’s only $5. My friend works there so we’ll do the whole employee parking deal woowoo!

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Oh got my first AWARD from Marliz3e!

I’ve yet to tag 10 people, it’s coming! 🙂

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I’ve still not fully adjusted to being home. Sometimes I wonder if I’m supposed to be living in California if I have no friends in California. When I mean friends I mean the type of friends you can sporadically count on to meet you after work for an hour at Starbucks or grab dinner with when you get off work late.

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Believe me I know somethings you plan for but somethings planning just doesn’t happen. Just saying…

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This SoCal weather is weird one day this week I had my boots, leggings, and long sweater-type blouse. The next day I wore a polka-dot skirt, blouse, and peep-toe wedges. Is that supposed to happen that way?!

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Volleyball games: so far still undefeated. The second game set we won the first and the second game we were down 10-20. We ended the game somewhere around 22-24 in our favor. It was intense!

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Please take me away…

Preferably where this will be the sunset...

Thank you,

Melanie

Please, for my sanity…

There are just some things I would ask you not to do or to do, for my sake.

PLEASE


1. Do not step on your brakes every 5 seconds when the car in front of you is 15 feet away. It’s really annoying to find that out when I pass you.


2. Do not diddle-dawdle when you are waiting for the light to turn green. There are people behind you waiting for the light to turn green as well and want to see how many cars can go through before the light turns red.


3. When you tell a joke, please do not be the first person to laugh. It makes it awkward when the joke wasn’t that funny.


4.  Is it too much to ask for a definite yes or no answer when I’m texting you about plans? I don’t understand what K means.


5. While we’re on that subject.. KK doesn’t help either.


6. When driving and you are on your phone please stay in the slow lane. Somehow older people on their phone in the fast lane makes people agitated, me included.


7. When you cut me off and I honk at you, I honked at you because you cut me off. Don’t look at me like I’m some crazed woman.


8. I wouldn’t honk at you if you were going faster than me. Speed up!


9. I understand FACEBOOK is the new thing but if you really wanted to keep in contact with me you’d use your phone, you have my number. I don’t understand how me getting a FACEBOOK helps our relationship because you don’t even send me a text every now and then. I know your phone is always with you. Facebook is only with you when you log on, just saying, I don’t understand.


10. Instead of assuming I’m looking at the calorie intake, ask me. It saves you from looking like a doofus when I say I’m looking at the ingredients because I’m allergic to a lot of things…

Thank you in advance,


Melanie

What Am I Doing?!

So this week I wanted to wean myself off Benadryl.

Tuesday I took Loratadine. A non-drowsy anti-histamine.

I tossed and turned until 1am where I resorted to turning on the lights to write in my journal.

I fell asleep with the light on sometime around 2am.

I woke up tired, to say the least.

Last night, I took Benadryl when I came home from church before 9pm. I have to time it just right. I don’t want to take it too soon and the drowsiness wear off but don’t want to take it too late, knock-out, and not be able to wake up the next morning.

I learned the hard way in college, LOL.

So I was prepping for my phone interview until 10pm. I went to bed I woke up around midnight because my stomach was hungry.

Mind you I say stomach because in my mind I don’t get hungry at night. I try not to eat after 7pm unless its Friday, Saturday, or Sunday.

My stomach was also feeling a little cold. Weird, I know but I’m random like that. You should know! 🙂

I tossed and turned until 12:30. I couldn’t take it, I’ve been so good the past month I got up and went to the kitchen. I settled for rice milk with Life cereal. Still being good. My mom was on the phone at that time in the living room so I asked her to massage my back as I ate my cereal.

Done with the cereal. I am still hungry and yes, my stomach is still cold. Smart move right with the cereal?

So, I did it.

I went for the rice and the left-over spam from last night.

I settled back onto the couch with my mom massaging my back. (I think she was on the phone with my family in the Philippines, if you’re wondering what in the world is she doing on the phone at 12:30 am?!)

There was a pillow readily available for my head to rest on. Somehow I fell asleep with my mom massaging me and awakened to her telling me to go to my bed. It was 2:30 am.

I laid on my bed unable to sleep. I went to the bathroom when I came back I found a spider in the corner of my room on the wall. I ran to the closet for the Electrolux vacuum (mind you this vacuum has 3 pieces, we’ve had this vacuum since before I was born, I think my mom says before she met my dad, maybe, I don’t know…)

I was not joking about the 3 pieces. So, I gather the vacuum, set it up and proceed to exterminate the spider. Now, I’m all grossed out and can’t sleep in my room until it has been thoroughly vacuumed. Can’t vacuum my room at 3am because my sister would throw a fit about waking her up.

I gallivant to the living room where I set up shop.

Sometime around 3:30 am I fell asleep.

Oh my life these days.

Welcome to my Randomness XIII

Tomorrow my volleyball games are at 5 and 7pm.

I’m EXCITED!

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I have a friend from college coming for the LA Country fair. Hopefully I get to hang out with her. Albeit she only lives in SD so I could always visit.

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My lesson for the past week has been contentment and it’s a battle.

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From now on, I’m going to try and respond to all comments. I always appreciated people replying to my comment. So, now I’m going to try to do the same.

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Bear with me, sometimes I don’t have a reply. I suppose a staple should be “Thanks for stopping by, come back soon :)”

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Sounds like it should be one of those state leaving signs… States have signs welcoming you….then they have signs thanking you for coming…Random, I know.

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The reason I know? For graduation we drove from GA to SC all the way to ME. We saw a lot of state welcoming signs and thank-you come again signs.

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My cousins were supposed to spend the night tonight and we were going to go to Roscoe’s. Alas, my cousin got hired for a job. Sad no Roscoe-cousin bonding time but I’m glad she got a job.

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Hm, I don’t know if I’m going to the Fair this year. Anything good?

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Considering I can’t eat anything… lol, probably not. Ugh, I never got to have my fried Twinkies.

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The Kashi brand has become my new best friend. If I can’t find anything to buy at the store I just look for the Kashi brand. I’m bound to find something I can actually eat!

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I wonder what people think as they see me pick up box after box looking at the side-I wonder if they think I’m looking at the sugar and calorie information or the ingredients.

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Oh and vacation was wonderful! I’ll have to bug my sister about pictures. BUT! Vacation couldn’t have ended sooner than my 2 coach purses, ugh. Shopping fast here I come.

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Of course, not after I go to LOFT tomorrow because I have a 30% off coupon and 25% off coupons on purchases. I’m in need of tops-blouses, shirts, etc.

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Tailor lady could you please hurry a little so I can rein in on my spending? I would greatly appreciate it.


Thank you 😀